A Dating Site for Every Body
Centering Queer, Fat, Disabled and Older Folk
Dating should be joyful, affirming, and built for you. Whether you're fat, queer, older, disabled—or all of the above—you deserve a space where you’re seen, celebrated, and desired.That’s why we’re building a dating site made just for us—where you don’t have to explain or justify who you are. Sign up below for updates about our website launch.
Find Your People
Interested in becoming a Beta Tester?
Tired of feeling like dating sites weren’t built with you in mind? We are too. That’s why we’re creating Hips, Crips & Queers, a dating platform designed for fat, queer, older, and disabled folks—a space where you don’t have to justify your body, your identity, or your worth.We’re in the early stages of building something special, and we want you to be part of it. Sign up to become a beta tester and help shape a dating space that actually centers us—our desires, our needs, and our joy.Why Join as a Beta Tester?
🌈 Be part of something revolutionary – A dating site that gets you.
💌 Help shape the experience – Your feedback will help us create a platform that works for our communities.
💖 Find real connections – Meet people who see and celebrate you for who you are.🔽 Sign up below to become a beta tester! 🔽
Find Your People
We’re building a queer-oriented dating site made for fat, disabled, and older folks - a safer, more welcoming space to build real connections.We are already fostering a strong sense of community through monthly get-togethers. In the future we will be featuring more events, including speed dating and educational workshops.Our website will include a free community forum section and a subscription-based dating profiles section with a wide range of body type, relationship type, gender identity, and sexual orientation options. Our site will also have features for disability accommodation (e.g., screen-reader compatibility, simplified navigation).Your safety is a high-priority. We’ll be using 3rd party reverse image search to protect from fake dating profiles, secure servers and plug-ins to protect from data theft and we will absolutely never sell your data.
Privacy Policy
Information We Collect:We collect names, phone numbers, and email addresses for survey research and to keep you updated about our platform development.How We Use Your Information:Phone numbers are used only to contact you for our 20-minute survey.
Email addresses are added to our mailing list where we send approximately 4 updates per month about our platform progress and community events.
Names help us personalize our communications.Information Sharing:We will never share, sell, or distribute your personal information to third parties. Your data stays with us.Data Retention:Phone numbers will be deleted after survey completion.
Email addresses remain on our mailing list to keep you updated (you can unsubscribe anytime by using the link at the bottom of every email).Contact:For questions about this privacy policy, contact us at [email protected].
Let’s Build Community!
Join Our Monthly Groups!
Monthly Get-Together
📆 When: 4th Wednesday of the month
5:30pm - 7:00pm PST📍 Where: RSVP HERE to receive the zoom linkWhat: 🎉 Get-To-Know-You Hangout - a low-key virtual space to connect with a mix of deep discussions and fun & games!❓ What activities would you love to see—or even lead—at our monthly hangouts? Share your ideas by posting on our Facebook page. I can't wait to hear your suggestions!
Crafting Creative Time
❓ What: Crafting and Creativity space - bring your own creative projects and enjoy a shared space to create & connect.🔷 What to Expect:
🔹 Time to work on your own creative projects in a relaxed environment.
🔹 A chance to share what you’re working on at the beginning and end of each session.
🔹 Skill Sharing —creative writing workshops, crafting demos and more ...🔹 Have a skill or project you'd love to share? Let us know—we’d love to feature it!📆 When: 3rd Wednesday of the month
5:30pm - 7:00pm PST📍 Where: RSVP HERE to receive your zoom link.
Book & Podcast Club
📚 Book: Parable of the Sower, Octavia’s Parables📆 1st Wednesday of every month
5:30pm - 7:00pm PST📍 Where: RSVP HERE to receive the zoom link📖 Book: Parable of the Sower by Octavia Butler🎧 Podcast: Octavia’s Parables by Toshi Reagon & adrienne maree brown💡 How It Works: We’ll read one chapter a month, listen to the corresponding podcast episode, and talk about each chapter in our monthly group.❓ Why: The book offers insights into resisting authoritarianism while presenting strategies for adapting to societal collapse and rebuilding a resilient future. At least I think it does. Although I saw the opera by Toshi & Bernice Reagan, which was transcendent, I haven't been able to get through the book alone. Please come and read it in community with mutual support!
11/25/2025
by Liz Gewirtz - Founder
How many of you have ever felt lonely & invisible?
I turned 60 and realized that, despite my herculean efforts made not to, I had somehow ended up single and alone.I had kind of receded from the world with my partner … and then my ex-parter. Despite not being lesbians, we had one of those loooooooong, lesbionic break-ups. We lived together and were technically dating, but there wasn’t much dating actually happening. Then one day, my ex decided he wanted to “see what was out there.” Which didn’t include a commitment to our platonic ideal and our dogs.So I moved to the East Bay in California, finally free of all the attachments that were keeping me in NY. And as much as I love the funky realness and beauty, I was lonely. And I soon noticed that there were an awful amount of folks my age looking for partners. All kinds of people - straight, queer, cis, trans, fat, disabled, abled-bodied. Some of their partners had died and some, like me, just ended up old and single. Some are generally happy and have strong communities - some don’t.What stands out to me is that most of the people around me are interesting, funny, nurturing and beautiful. People would be lucky to have them as partners. But many of them are walking around in frightened bubbles. And I get it. As we get older, especially with queer people, our circles thin out. Or we already know everyone in the room. Some of us haven’t had sex for years. And, like me, many are hesitant to revisit dating apps where old, fat and disabled people are invisible.That’s when the idea of Hips, Crips & Queers came to me. When I shared it with folks in my circle, they lit up. We want to be the norm. We don’t want to be afraid to take off our clothes because of our saggy skin and belly rolls.However, many of the people I spoke to have safety concerns. We've been harassed, ignored, or targeted on mainstream apps. That’s why Hips, Crips & Queers will have built-in protections for new members: everyone will answer screening questions to show they understand and respect our communities, and we’ll use tools like reverse image searches to weed out fake profiles.People often ask if they can join if they're "just" looking for friendship. The answer is - absolutely! We're creating a community space where people can connect knowing their fat, older, gender-varying, disabled bodies are completely acceptable just as they are.